One thing every food allergy family wrestles with is whether and where to dine out. Many avoid eating at restaurants and ordering take-out for fear of cross-contact, while others will carefully engage with management to determine the potential risk of an allergic reaction (or worse.)
Which brings us to this installment of our “You be the Judge” series, where we present a food allergy-related scenario and invite you to sound off by sharing your opinions and expertise.
This time, a woman posting as u/ThrowawayPeanutAll told her story on reddit in a post entitled “AITA for crying causing a wedding to be called off?“
We’ve referred to the “AITA” subreddit where this story was recently posted. AITA is short for “Am I the A-Hole,” a group providing a medium where people question their behavior and readers vote.
Here is the post in its entirety, though we’ve added a bit of editing to make it a bit more clear:
I am 31F [and I have friends named] Anna 35F and Alex 33M. [Alex] has a seven-year-old daughter named Frankie who has a severe peanut allergy. Alex is very protective of Frankie and takes great precautions to ensure her safety.
One day, Anna and I decided to go to a restaurant, and we informed Alex beforehand. He explicitly told us to make sure that there were no peanuts in the food. Unfortunately, in the midst of ordering our meals, I completely forgot about Frankie’s allergy, and she ended up eating something with peanuts in it. This resulted in Frankie having a severe allergic reaction and requiring immediate medical attention.
Upon learning about the incident, Alex understandably became angry and upset. He directed his frustration towards me and Anna, stating that we should have asked about the presence of peanuts in the food. Furthermore, he expressed that he no longer wanted me around Frankie if we couldn’t be more responsible I busted out in tears. This argument escalated, leading to a major fight between Anna and Alex and ultimately causing their wedding to be called off. Now, both friends and family are placing the blame on me, stating that Anna and I should have been more cautious and that I ruined the wedding because I’m an idiot who doesn’t listen
We assume Frankie thankfully recovered, though we can only imagine the panic that ensued.
Apparently, there’s more to the story, as detailed in the comments. The daughter was apparently served Kung Pao Chicken at a Chinese restaurant where peanuts are used in many dishes and likely permeate the kitchen.
So far, the post has received 8.4K “upvotes” — meaning it is garnering a lot of attention — and over 3.7K comments that together form the consensus that the woman is indeed an “A-Hole”.
So now we turn to you, our readers — experts in all things food allergy — and ask you to render your opinion: Is the poster simply at fault here, or is there more blame to go around?
You be the judge by sounding off below.